Resiliency: A 21st Century Life Skill Of Our Times

There are many changes happening in the world right now; political, social, cultural, environmental, economic, etc. 

But perhaps the most profound is the internal changes occurring within all of us at this time in our collective history.

As we navigate through the whirlwind of this uncertain and often stressful energy that permeates all aspects of our lives, how do we make sense of what is happening within the context of our individual realities? How do we keep going?

This is my question as I reflect upon what I am experiencing all around me.

I work with people every day. I hear their stories. I feel their struggles.

My ability to empathize has led me to believe we are truly connected and it’s not just a catch phrase for new age thinkers.

As I place one foot in the community and the other in educational institutions, I see first hand the shaping of minds and hearts of our fellow citizens young and old.

I see, hear and sense the voices of the people; the youth, the workers, the dreamers and the special souls who desire a life that dares to allow them to follow their calling or pursue a career that makes their hearts sing with joy and purpose.

Every single one of them has a story; a history and a current reality that involves interconnected entanglements between their educational and career aspirations, their personal and family relationships, systemic and economic realities and their own belief systems that often work against them.

Insecurity, doubt, negative beliefs, fear, feeling stuck, alone, unhealthy and doubtful has come up over and over again. Each time I sit with someone I am reminded of not only myself, but of everyone I meet.

We are one people; humans and in these times of great change I have come to appreciate a life skill that is innate in all of us; resiliency.

Resiliency is defined as “The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness. The ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity”.

As we collectively embark on this transformational journey of change, whether we like it or not, whether we resist it or not, whether we even believe it is happening or not, I invite you to reflect upon how you have demonstrated your ability to recover from difficulties in your life.  Here lies your empowerment.

Conscious Education Coach Reflection Exercise: 

  1. Take a deep breath, close your eyes and remember the last time that you demonstrated toughness and recovered from a heavy blow that nearly knocked you over.
  2. What did you do specifically to get out of panic and into a state of being able to function and get on with your life? Who did you talk to? What actions did you take?
  3. How did you spring back after a loss? What did you do mentally, emotionally, and physically to assist your recovery?
  4. How are you stronger now because of this experience?

Resiliency is part of your nature, our natural state as humans.

Whatever is happening in your life, whatever changes are occurring, this post is a reminder to you, and me, that we have resiliency coursing through our veins giving us the gift of endurance. We really do have this super power. It is true.

You have done this before. 

You have had this life skill all your life.

It is in you and like any muscle, it gets stronger the more you use it.

Remembering our ability to spring back into shape not only reinforces our belief that we can do it again, but reminds us that we are a strong people and we can move through all the changes happening in our lives with grace, strength and courage.

If only we say it, we name it and we recognize it in ourselves and each other.


We can do this! You can do this!

“Resilience comes from deep within us and from the support outside us. It comes from gratitude for what’s good in our lives and from leaning in to the suck. It comes from analyzing how we process grief and from simply accepting that grief. Sometimes we have less control than we think. Other times we have more. I learned that when life pulls you under, you can kick against the bottom, break the surface, and breathe again”

Sheryl Sandberg from her book “Option B”